In the last edition, we said a family is a collection of people related by birth or marriage. This can further be divided into a nuclear and an extended family. Nuclear family consists of two parents and their children, while extended family includes parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews, nieces, grandchildren. The next points in the list of family values are:
4. Work values: These include such things as your philosophies about your job, your finances, and how you spend your money. For children, these values include how they approach school and their education. Examples of work values include:
*Always doing your best work.
* Working in a team.
* Saving a portion of your salary or allowance.
* Finding opportunities to express your ideas and creativity.
* Being proud of your achievements.
* Making education a priority.
* Keeping in mind the part that your job plays in the society.
* Treating co-workers, fellow students, customers, and authority figures the way that you want to be treated.
There is a saying, ‘Charity begins at home’; the kind of family values a person grows up into, coupled with the kind of people that person associates with (orientation), go a long way in determining the perception of that individual about life. So, most often, when the reality of life is not in congruence with the individual’s perception, frustration sets in.
Examining some of the family values mentioned above, deviants constitute a threat to any decent family and by extension, to the whole society. This is because the congregation of families constitutes the society. The ripple effect of probably two deviants as a husband and a wife nurturing a child(ren) in any society, will be counterproductive. Thanks to the establishment of laws and enforcement that keep deviants in check, life could have been “solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short” as described by Thomas Hobbes; a state where every person has a natural right to do anything one thinks necessary for preserving one’s own life.
More importantly, advancement in technology has made the world a global village thus no society is completely independent of another. In this regard, there are uniform acceptable values that enhance productivity, mutual respect, justice, peace and tranquillity.
Beliefs and cultures have tremendous influence on people. However, in today’s world, some of the beliefs and cultures that served in times past have become archaic with negative effect and as such, have become the compass of backwardness.
Religion, Values And Life
There is no country without people practicing one religion or another, unfortunately, some people have used religion to enslave others and keep their minds perpetually in obscurity. We hardly find any religion that does not speak for hardwork and diligence, but some in the name of religion, have abdicated diligence and religious values for self-deceitful miracles.
Many families in Africa have idolatrous background which the coming of civilization and the gospel of Jesus Christ still have little or no impact on. This is why a person who is negligent in upholding workable principles for success attributes his failure in life to his ancestors’ covenant with demons. Little wonder, in spite of the large population of religious families in most developing societies, most people lack empathy, love and encouragement for creativity. Platforms for competitive progress are corrupt because most people who have been lifted to the level of leadership lack relevant moral, social, work, and religious values required for any decent society to make progress.