Pastor Malachi Folorunsho


In the previous article, I mentioned that for you to live your life, you must realize that you have a life that was freely given to you by God. You cannot cherish what you don’t know.

How much of your life do you know?

2 Corinthians 13:5, “Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves, know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?”

The way some people respond to challenges and people around them is a clear indication that they are yet to identify their own lives.

“Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone to tell you who you are.”

How To Identify Yourself

Carefully monitor your patterns: Pattern simply means how you do what you do or your consistent response to issues over time.

In the context of human behaviour, a pattern refers to a consistent and observable tendency or sequence of actions, reactions, or responses exhibited by individuals or groups over time.

  • What do you do when criticized or commended?
  • What do you do when faced with failure?
  • What do you do when you are late to your office? Do you give excuses or try to cover up?
  • What do you do when you are not the one in charge of a group?

Answering the above questions will help you recognize your patterns and when you are able to recognise your patterns, you are on your journey to self-identity.

Be honest with yourself: “To be honest with oneself is to face the truth about oneself, and the truth about oneself is one of the hardest things to face.” – James A. Baldwin

Determine to be honest with yourself. Say the truth to and about yourself. It doesn’t have to be convenient or reasonable. Remove those fake garments and be real. Doing this consistently will help you to identify yourself.

Love yourself: Self-love will give you a deeper insight about your self-identity. The more you love yourself, the deeper your knowledge about yourself. Love yourself in the past, present and future. It is possible to have some bad past, disconnect yourself from the bad, but love yourself.

If you love yourself, you will say good things about yourself, you will invest in yourself and you will accept yourself the way you are while believing strongly that your tomorrow will be better and greater.

In conclusion, if you fail to identify yourself, you will give room for self-sabotage, low self-esteem and gross misunderstanding by other people around you.

Self-identity will help you to live your life and enjoy healthy relationships with people around you, including your family and colleagues.

See you at the top!


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